3 Personality Defects Of Children If They Are Often Scolded

Nowadays, many parents' education methods are solved by shouting. As long as the child is not obedient or does not follow the parents' wishes, he will yell at the child.

Even some families have been advocating such an education method as "If you don't fight, you can't make a weapon", and "A filial son is born under a stick", but can this method really teach good children? Next, let's find out through a case.

My friend Anna's daughter is three years old this year. She has a very lively personality and has always been very attractive. She is also very sensible when there are guests. She will take the initiative to talk to the guests. Everyone is very envious that Anna can teach her children so well.  I'm so well-behaved at only three years old, it's simply too rare.

However, when everyone saw this child again recently, it felt like a different person. There was a clear difference from the previous one. The personality became introverted. When I saw the guests, I didn’t say a word and seemed a little scared. When she heard Mother’s instructions will be executed immediately.

Although the child has become a lot more obedient, it always feels weird. At this time, Anna said: My daughter is more obedient now. The lively and public personality that used to be a headache for me, now I am a little princess quietly. 

Everyone Is Very Curious, Why Does The Child Suddenly Become Like This?

My friends tell everyone that as long as the daughter is unwilling to do something, she will tell her loudly. If she is not obedient, she will yell at her loudly. It worked.

Seeing Anna triumphantly talking about her way of education, friends felt sorry for her daughter. Maybe Anna didn’t know that what she yelled at were the child’s innocence and beauty. After often yelling at the child, only It will make the child's mind become weaker and weaker.

Children Who Are Often Yelled At May Have 3 Personality Defects When They Grow Up Parents Need To Reflect

1. Insecurity

In the heart of a child, the parent is the person he depends on and trusts most. If the parent often yells at the child, it will cause great harm to the child’s heart. From the child’s point of view, the most important person in his heart treats himself like this. What's more, it is other people, so they will have a sense of fear, and will feel insecure over time.

2. Produce inferiority complex

When children are two years old, they will gradually become autonomous. If they often yell at children, they will be afraid of their parents, and will gradually become self-doubt and self-denial.

Especially after the children go to school, they will become inferior when they are with their classmates. They always feel that they are not doing well enough, whether their parents do not love me and so on.

3. Rebellious

Children who grow up under the yelling of their parents will also have a situation that is rebellious. After the child is three years old, he will learn to refuse what he does not like to do, and he will also express his wishes.

If the child is forced to do something he doesn't like this time or yelling at him because of something, the seeds of rebellion will be planted in his heart.

In the long run, children will inevitably have the idea of "breaking the jar", they will become more disobedient, and they will become accustomed to opposing their parents. In this way, it will inevitably be counterproductive and make the child's condition worse and worse.

After reading the above articles, parents who often yell at their children need to reflect on it?

Although some of the children’s behaviors really make them very angry, in any case, the yelling behavior will seriously affect the children’s mental state, and this mentality will always accompany the children, and will not forget them because they grow up. What happened in childhood will affect a child's life.

Parents must pay attention to the methods when communicating with their children, and give them enough respect. Only when parents educate their children in the correct way can they be more beneficial to their physical and mental health.

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