How To Educate Your Children?

Education means that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul.

1. The main factor affecting children's performance is not the school, but the family.

2. If there is a problem with family education, the child may have a hard time at school, and the child may become a "problem child" in the school.

3. For children with good grades, their mothers are usually those who have a plan and move quickly. The more serious the father, the more organized, and the more polite, the better the children's grades will be.

4. Poverty is an important resource for education, but it is not that the poorer the better, the more conducive to the growth of children. Parents need to provide their children with basic cultural information, so as not to let their children fall into the abyss of low self-esteem.

5. Wealth is another higher-level educational resource. The experience of Westerners is: "It takes three generations to cultivate a nobleman." "Classes are inherited." However, higher-level educational resources need more advanced ones. Educational skills, if there are no more advanced education skills, wealthy families will bring disasters to the growth of children.

6. Don't be knowledgeable but literate parents. Some people have high education but are not necessarily literate. If a parent does not know how to live, does not know how to treat others, or even how to treat his children, no matter how high academic level he has, he is also an illiterate person.

7. Parents can regard their children as the center of the world, but don't forget that parents also have to live independent lives. If parents completely revolve around their children and lose their own life themes, such parents will often interfere with their children's growth in the name of love. Sometimes, it's not that children can't do without their parents, but parents can't do without their children.

8. Parents need to take the responsibility of educating their children but don't completely cancel their leisure life just because of educating their children. "I don't have a sense of responsibility to hurt others, and I have a sense of responsibility to hurt myself."

9. If the parents hug the child as soon as the child is crying, then the child will take advantage of this characteristic of the parent to often pester the parent and make more demands. Therefore, if the child is crying, don't worry about picking up the child. It is best for parents to let themselves do things, and let the children watch their actions swiftly.

10. The relationship between husband and wife affects the character of the child. If a man does not respect his wife, then his son has learned to disrespect his female classmates at school. If a woman does not respect her husband, then her daughter has learned to look down on her male classmates at school.

11. Education is to cultivate people's spiritual appearance. The mission of parents and teachers is to make children gradually take responsibility for their own spiritual appearance, remove all kinds of contamination that may be contaminated, and cultivate spiritual "seeds" in people so that people can breathe the mountain air and make people feel proud.

12. Educated parents are "Voltaire's", "I disagree with your views, but I swear to defend your right to speak". They began to reason with their children from the day they were born and patiently solicited their opinions. Don't expect to beat and scold the child to make the child learn to obey. The result of killing chickens to show monkeys is: monkeys have also learned to kill chickens.

13. Let children become both passionate and rational people. "Without passion, no great cause can start well, and no feat can end well without reason."

14. Let your children be educated, punctual, educated and punctual, queuing, not talking loudly in public, and not getting angry easily.

15. Be kind. If your child is more kind, please don't laugh at his weakness. People who like to take advantage of small gains often suffer big losses because they are disgusted by others. The person who is willing to suffer a small loss will take a big advantage in the future because he is liked by others.

16. The vitality of the body can bring about the vitality of the spirit. A person with good health and a sunny character. People who are in poor health hesitate to do things, dodging, and hesitate to talk.

17. Don't think that children from 1 to 6 years old are just the age for growing their bodies. If parents let their children spend 1 to 6 years with their grandparents or grandparents, and wait until the children are 6 years old, the parents take the children back to elementary school, then the child will either become a silent silencer in elementary school or become a lawless troublemaker. 

18. Often do three things with your child: one is to have a meal with the child, the other is to invite the child to fix toys, furniture or clothing together, and occasionally invite the child to help solve the difficulties at work. The third is to tell a story to the child and invite the child to tell the story by themselves.

19. If there are no special difficulties, it is best for parents to hurry home and eat with their children every day. The common values ​​of the family are established when the whole family gathers around a table to eat.

20. Tell the children stories and invite them to tell them by themselves. Let the children establish reading and writing habits from listening to the story so that the children learn to read independently as soon as possible, and develop the habit of lifelong reading as soon as possible. "As long as people are still studying, they will not be completely degenerate, and those who are completely degenerate will not read." Parents who never tell stories to their children are irresponsible parents.

21. There are three critical periods for a child's growth: the first is around 3 years old, the second is around 9 years old, and the third is around 13 years old. If you miss the critical period of growth, there will be endless troubles.

22. It's not "to stand at thirty", but "to stand at three years old". Around the age of three, children must establish the courage and habit of self-reliance. Whatever you can do, you must do it yourself, and what you should do, do your best.

23. If your child liked Frost’s verse when he was 13 years old: "Two roads branch in the woods, I choose the one with fewer people", this is normal, don’t worry, he might choose later The one with more people walking.

24. It is necessary for parents to explain the reason to their children, but when explaining the reason to children around 13 years old, they should pay attention to the posture of their speech. Posture is more important than reason. Otherwise, the child will be disgusted and resist. The child will say: What you say is right, but the way you speak is very annoying.

25. The secret in the heart is a sign of growth and maturity. If the child has something on his mind and he doesn't want to tell you, then don't force the child to tell his secret.

26. When a child is 3 years old, it is best to have an inactive, laissez-faire parent by his side. Around the age of 9 years old, it is best to have an active and authoritative parent by his side. Around the age of 13, it is best to have a passive democratic parent by his side. Effective education is strict first and then loosens, and ineffective education is loose first and then strict.

27. You must pay attention to your child's academic performance, but don't care too much about his ranking. However, we need to be wary of children whose academic performance is always the first. Some children have good academic performance and good personalities, and some children have good academic performance, but their personalities are selfish, lack compassion, and have no interest in life.

28. You must let your child learn to interact with others and happily accept friends. "If parents are dissatisfied with their neighbors, are very critical of their children's friends, or prevent their children from making friends with them, and make the children feel as if they are very different from others, then these children will have a hard time growing up. Get along with anyone naturally.

29. Children’s growth needs companions. Let the children have their own friends, but don’t have too messy partners. Before the children have formed mature rationality and judgment, be wary of the children’s bad habits of getting involved with peers.

30. Let your child establish a healthy aesthetic as soon as possible. Promising men will love healthy women. Don't let the child's aesthetics fall into a low-level, pathological state. Don't think that the small and sick are good. Don't think that the strong are all bad. Don't think that little sparrows, little sheep, and puppies are all cute, and don't think that lions, tigers, and wolves are all bad. Don't think that wolves are cannibals. Jackals only eat weaker ones.

31. "The Catcher in the Rye" contributed a word to the world: watch. Education is not a matter of control or care. Between the control and the no matter, there is a word called "watch".

32. Tell your children: Children who listen carefully will occasionally get good grades, and children who teach themselves will always get good grades.

Parents and children are like two big and small trees that are separated and close to each other. The big tree must shelter the small tree from wind and sand, and leave enough space for the small tree to feel the sun and breathe the air.

In this way, the small tree can stretch freely and thrive in its own space. A small tree that is too close to a big tree cannot grow into a towering tree, while a small tree that is far away from the big tree has to resist the wind and sand alone. Although it is extremely strong, it is extremely easy to twist or die.

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