Why Do Children Lie? Parents Must Be Clear
Many parents have encountered the problem of believing that their children lie. Some children will choose to admit their mistakes when they are discovered by their parents, but some children still refuse to admit it after being discovered, which makes the parents very angry.
In fact, lying is a ubiquitous phenomenon in human society, and biological instinct exists in the consciousness of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages. The most important thing for children to lie is to analyze their motives for lying. The reasons are nothing more than the following:
1. Other people's behavior toward the child's wrong behavior is too extreme. It is precise because of this extreme that children are reluctant and dare not to tell the truth truthfully.
2. Cover-up negligence and avoid scolding. Children think that they will be scolded or even beaten by their parents and teachers for making mistakes, and choose to lie in order to protect themselves.
3. In the process of gradual maturity, in order to satisfy their self-esteem, children will definitely exaggerate the facts of certain things and add fuel and jealousy to achieve their goals.
4. There are also children who lack a sense of security and a stable environment, and tentatively lie to seek their own answers for some situations they want to understand.
5. The last few parts are purely for fun and lies. This situation mostly occurs between classmates and peers.
Since it is a common phenomenon for children to lie, how should parents educate them when we know the reasons for lying?
1. Confirm the child's lie
When you suspect that your child is lying, you should first conduct a careful investigation and understanding to find out if the child is really lying. If you blame the child without investigating the truth of the matter, it may have an adverse effect on the child's mind and may even cause tension in the parent-child relationship.
2. Deal with children's lies reasonably
Parents should take different educational measures according to different situations of lying. Some lies are not intentional by the child. Find out the reason for lying, find out the problem and then take a reasonable solution.
If a parent discovers that a child is lying, in addition to finding out the truth of the matter, he must find out more reasons in future education and think about whether the child's bad habits are related to improper education. Find out the reason in time and correct it, so that you can lead the child in the right direction step by step.
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