Bad Effects Of Nagging To Children That Parents Should Know

Children in many families have had the experience of being nagged by their parents, such as "Isn't this question just taught to you? Why can't you do it?" The parents have to teach them word by word even when they write essays, and the children have completely lost the ability to write independently.

Parents originally thought that after spending so much time and energy, their children should be outstanding in learning, but in the end, they saw the fact that the children did not have the initiative to learn, and they were indescribably bored with learning.

Obviously, this kind of nagging from parents sounds completely "ineffective preaching" to children.

How Does Parental Nagging Often Affect Children?

1. Ineffective Preaching Hinders The Independence Of Children's Thinking

Under the influence of traditional educational thinking, many parents are accustomed to arranging their children's learning because they are worried about their children's learning problems.

But this kind of education will have a hidden danger: it will make the child become an "obedient" child in order to avoid the consequences of being lectured by his parents. Inert thinking mode, no longer takes the initiative to think about problems, since then, lose the ability to think independently and become a person who is not assertive and lazy to think.

Such educational results are obviously not what our parents want to see. It can be seen that the nagging of parents to their children did not really help the children, but set up obstacles for the children invisibly, and even caused the children to have a rebellious mentality.

2. The Parent-Child Relationship Is Not Close

Parents who are too nagging will not only not benefit the parent-child relationship, but even alienate the parent-child relationship. Parents repeatedly say that the church makes their children feel impatient, resisting, not wanting to listen to their parents, and not wanting to communicate and communicate with them too much. 

So it's really a manifestation of the "extraordinary effect" that only makes things counterproductive. Parents should grasp the size when communicating with their children, so as not to let the children lose patience and alienate the parent-child relationship.

3. Changes In The Child's Personality

The nagging of the parents actually also reflects the parents' disapproval of the child and the feeling that the child is not doing well. However, the long-term nagging of parents will make children feel that they cannot get the understanding and approval of their parents, and they will doubt themselves to a certain extent. Discipline becomes rebellious.

It Can Be Seen That The More Parents Nagging, The More Hindering Their Children's Growth, So How Should Parents Properly Educate Their Children?

1. Pay Attention To The Tone Of Your Communication

Many parents don't look good when they communicate with their children. Parents don't have to do this. It is better to try to communicate with their children in a gentle tone, and don't let the communication be full of "gunpowder smell". Try not to nag, be concise, tell your child what you think, point out your child's mistakes correctly, and guide them.

2. Give Children The Space To Grow Independently

Too much nagging will only make the child breathless, which will restrain the child and deprive the child of the right to grow independently. Therefore, parents should not always use their own experiences to control their children. In the final analysis, children must be independent, and they should give their children space to think independently so that they can continue to grow.

3. Listen To Every Word Of The Child And Encourage The Child To Express Their Ideas Boldly

Compared with adults, children's psychological capacity is relatively weak, and they are more likely to become emotional when encountering problems, such as sometimes rebellious behaviors such as talking back to their parents.

In this case, parents should adjust their emotions, listen patiently to their children, encourage children to speak their minds boldly, and solve problems with their children on the premise of empathy.

It should be noted that when we listen to the child's expression if we do not agree with the child's ideas, we should not rush to deny the child, let alone tell the child our answer directly.

This is because a child has his own independent cognition and judgment on a matter. If his thoughts are easily denied, he will feel a sense of frustration and gradually lose the desire to talk.

We can wait until the child has finished speaking, and then exchange views with the child on this issue, and guide the child to think further, maybe the child will find a more suitable answer by himself.

4. Let The Children Think Out The Truth By Themselves

I believe that many parents should have experienced such a situation: constantly reasoning with their children, but the child is left ear in the right ear out

Since direct indoctrination cannot succeed, we must learn to use detour tactics and let children think about the truth by themselves through guidance.

But many parents are very confused: what kind of way to guide their children to be effective? I recommend everyone, storytelling. Compared with threats, beatings, and scolding, the excitement of the story is easier to attract children. Through the story, the reasoning is brought in, so that the children can think out the truth by themselves.

Because the middle truth is thought out by the child himself, he will accept it unconditionally. The role of this kind of guidance is very crucial and important, and it is far more effective than threats and beatings.

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