Give The Learning Back To The Children

If parents take care of everything and shoulder the burdens of their children on the way to learning, then children will inevitably become vassals rather than subjects of learning.

Parents can help, assist, but cannot afford it. Learning is ultimately a child's business.

Children need to make their own plans for the subjects they study, plan what to study in a day, how much to study, and what to do at what time.

If the child does not know the problem, you can ask the parents, it is necessary for the parents to find a way to give some help.

If the planning parents come, they need to supervise the children’s completion at all times, and they also need to follow the buttocks from time to time to supervise. This kind of responsibility will make the parents very tired, and the children will not feel autonomy and freedom.

Freedom and autonomy must be accompanied by independence. If there is no independent commitment, and everything depends on others, where can freedom and autonomy come from?

So, learn this thing and leave it to the child to plan and complete it by himself. Let its little motor run by itself, and parents don't have to follow behind to urge and nagging.

As long as the child realizes that he has to learn and that there are some tasks that need to be completed, let him take care of himself, make plans by himself, and leave the right and responsibility of learning to the child himself.

If the child forgets to play one day, he is not afraid. The unfinished tasks always need to be completed, and the things of the day should be done on the same day. As long as the rules are set, the children are afraid that they will forget them, so they will take care of themselves and adjust the rules of play and learning.

Children do not have the ability, it is the parents who do too much and take on the tasks that the children should undertake.

Parents think that children need to be managed, urged, reminded, and cared for. In fact, what children need is what they can say and can be the leader. As long as parents trust their children and let go slowly, children can learn on their own.

Parents do not let go, because they are burdened with a lot of pressure and anxiety. It is out of distrust of children's playful nature. Think that once the child is relaxed, he must play endlessly.

Maybe after letting go at first, the child really doesn't remember learning, let go of playing, and try to play by all means. At this time, the rule of "doing the day's work on the day" is needed to allow the child to correct himself. Just like the law, standing here, people know what to do.

Therefore, bravely return this matter of learning to the children, the parents do not bear the burden, and the children can take responsibility.