Smart Way Of Dealing With A Child Who Always Says "No"

When a child says ''no'', the first reaction of many parents is that it is the child's rebellion, not the expression of their needs. Some children can do things by themselves, they will want to do it by themselves, but others will help them. If he finishes, he will be unhappy, which is what triggers the child to say no.

There are, of course, many other reasons that motivate children to say no, but many parents ignore these details:

1. Want To Be Independent

When children gradually realize their independent existence, they will have some self-will, especially when they find themselves saying ''no'', parents will re-examine their needs, which makes them more aware of the power of this word.

2. Want To Attract The Attention Of Parents

When the child says ''no'', many parents will show a very surprised look, which will make the child more present. In "The Unspeakable Child", it is said that a series of behaviors of children saying no waiting are all ways to attract the attention of parents. This is also a manifestation of the child's insecurity.

In many second-child families, the brothers and sisters who were originally very well-behaved gradually began to be disobedient. This is because they felt that the appearance of the younger brothers and sisters took away the attention of parents and mothers. In order to feel the love, then they must appear more present.

3. Because The Language Is Not Smooth, The Parents Do Not Understand And Become Irritable

The child believes that he is a person with ideas, and he intends to make this point public. Before the child is eighteen months old, everything about the child is arranged by the parents, and to a certain extent, it can be said to be the shadow of the parents. But now, he is beginning to speak out about himself, but if the parents do not understand or even ignore it, the baby will be irritable because he is not understood. Babies who are bored can even become depressed and autistic.

So How Do Smart Parents Respond?

1. Respect Your Baby And Express Your Inner Thoughts Bravely

Many parents like to control their babies, ordering them to do this and that, but when they have their own ideas, parents always like to refuse. Parents need to treat their children equally. They are not accessories of parents. Every child is an independent individual with his own ideas and thoughts. Especially for two-year-old babies, parents and they do not understand each other, so parents should respect them, and babies also have the right to say "no".

In life-related matters such as eating, dressing, traveling, and playing, if the child does not want to eat a certain dish this time, or does not want to share the newly bought toys with other friends, parents may wish to respect the child's wishes as appropriate. After persuasion, let the children finally make their own decisions. In this way, the child can not only feel that he is supported and respected by his parents but also his positive sensibility of "self-awareness" will gradually become stronger.

2. Set The Rules For Your Children, And Expressly Refuse If You Can't Do It

For a family, it is very important to make rules, especially for a two-year-old rebellious child. When the child violates the rules, parents can take out the rules and regulations to restrain the child.

Children have a sense of order in their hearts, and they will do things in accordance with the regulations. If they go beyond the scope, their hearts will also be nervous. Parents can start with small things, and stipulate that they go to bed at nine o'clock every day, pay attention when eating, and don't lose their temper. When the child reaches a certain age, parents can also negotiate appropriate changes to the rules with the child.

However, when a child's behavior is dangerous, violates social rules, goes beyond the boundaries of interpersonal communication, and exceeds the parents' bottom line, such as children who want to cross the road by themselves, rob other people's toys, pick flowers in the park, etc., parents should Clearly reject the child. It should be noted that explicit rejection requires parents to have consistent standards in front of their children, rather than having double standards or multiple standards.

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