Wrong Concept Of Parental Education To Children

Children from birth to the moment, that is, parents treasured flesh and blood, rather the parents themselves wronged, do not want their children to follow their own suffers, this is the earth's most pure feelings.

Each of us has parents, and each of us has our own childhood. Some of us had very unfortunate childhoods, some of us had extremely happy childhoods, and some of us had no parents to accompany us in our childhoods. Some newcomers have memories of loving parents and loving parents in their childhoods.

A good family environment and a relaxed and happy family atmosphere can make children full of confidence in the world, full of courage in the face of difficulties, and fearless in the face of setbacks.

However, some parents do not understand this truth, thinking that the child is born by himself, and the one raised by himself must grow up under his own consciousness, otherwise he will go astray.

Young and ignorant, they have not experienced the ups and downs of society. Facing the complicated world, they do not have the ability and courage to distinguish, and they will be nothing without the embrace of their parents.

It is this wrong educational concept that affects the lives of many children, and it is precise because of this that the distance between each child is widened.

However, many parents think that it is the child's incompetence and the failure to implement their own concepts well. In such a contradiction, the parents are always right. But is this really the case? Dialectics tells us that things are not so simple.

Parents Miscontrol Children's Performance

Abusing parental authority and forcing children to respect our consciousness, if the child refuses or raises doubts, then it is a challenge to the parent's status. This is intolerable. I believe this is the behavior of most parents to educate their children on a daily basis. They usually have the following types Performance.

Performance 1 : Irrefutable

In many families, the parent's words are the authority and the command, and as long as the parents say the words, they cannot be refuted by the children. Even if the child has different ideas, the parents will quickly suppress his ideas and do not allow any dissenting words to appear.

We see that there are many children who lack their own opinions, and when asked what they think, they may not say anything. This is influenced by the family.

They have no right to speak at home, their thoughts are often considered wrong by their parents, and children who have been suppressed for a long time inevitably harbor resentment in their hearts.

Performance 2: The Day And Night Change

There is also a parent of the child who is very fond of calling the shots, but the rules are laid down, but flip-flop parents are the rule makers, not the performer, such an approach is difficult to let the children be convinced.

Let alone let the child adhere to the principles set by the parents without wavering. Such as the children and the children agreed to show a good week to go once the amusement park, but with the mind and the parents continue to cancel plans, the child's disappointment more piled more, the last words of the parents is no longer convincing.

Performance 3: Painting The Ground As A Prison

It is human nature for parents to love and protect their children, but parents are too strict with their children and like to draw the ground into a prison for their children. At this time, a parent's love is a prison, which firmly surrounds the children.

Let the children not break free from the shackles of their parents. Parents not only for the child's actions are controlled, their thoughts also regulate. Once the mind is controlled, the child is very prone to resisting emotions, and it is also prone to the emotions of disgust with parents.

How To Use Parental Authority Correctly

Now that we know the wrong way of education, we must change it in time. We can't bow to our children and admit our mistakes because of our own faces. Therefore, wise parents usually have the following methods.

The first step is to set the general direction, and the details are up to the child to decide

Parents are the guides and companions of their children's growth, but they are definitely not the controllers of their children's thoughts. Parents should formulate a general direction of action for their children.

As long as the child does not make mistakes in the details, parents should respect the child's ideas and do not impose control on the child. A child full of assertiveness and independent thinking is more likely to achieve success in study and even career.

The second step is to combine leniency and strictness and to apply both kindness and power

When educating their children, smart parents will choose the method of combining leniency and strictness, and giving both kindness and kindness. When the child makes a big mistake, the parent will never tolerate the child's mistake and will punish the child with a small punishment.

When children make small mistakes in their daily life that do not affect others, proper education can help children recognize their own mistakes and make corrections.

When children can recognize their mistakes and do not make the same type of mistakes next time, parents should also observe them in time and reward their children verbally or materially.

Parents' encouragement and praise are the driving force for children's progress. Parents should not praise their children because they are afraid of their pride and complacency. Education needs to be strict, and even more, praise is needed. Only in this way can we educate good children who know how to behave.

The Three-step Allow Mistakes, Do Not Catch The Pigtails

When parents see their children doing something wrong, they often complain and blame their children, but do parents reflect on whether their decision-making is wrong?

Humans will make mistakes, especially children who are not deeply involved in the world. When children make mistakes, parents should not hold on to their children's pigtails, but allow their children to make mistakes. Only in the process of correcting mistakes can children learn the correct method.

To grow, Parents can recall their own growth experiences. Everyone grows up stumbled. Parents' love and letting go are the best way for children to learn self-control.

Temon's Father's Message On Parenting:

Every child is born with a unique character. How can we let the child develop strengths and avoid weaknesses? In the process of education, through the child's natural ability, let him achieve certain achievements, even if it is to live a happy life.

It is the goal that every parent should pursue, and it is also the ultimate goal of educating our children. We cannot accompany our children throughout their lives.

But the truths we taught him will always accompany him, and will even be passed on to our descendants as important family heirlooms. Therefore, parents should not only attach importance to education but also face it squarely.

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