Reality That Children With Fun Personalities Have To Face

The quality of a child's character will have a greater impact on the child's future development. Many parents may know this, but most parents do not know whether the child's character is good or bad. Sometimes it seems that Seemingly promising personality, but it will make it difficult for children to stand out.

In the eyes of his parents, Temon has always been a very smart child. because Temon is very sensible. he can understand what his mother and father are like. What his classmates and friends need, and he always does things satisfactorily when he does things. It can be said that Temon is simply a model of a good boy.

Temon's parents also believed that. Temon must be a promising child. However, Temon's parents did not notice that. Temon seems to have very few things he likes, very few wishes, and very few ideas of his own. When he grows up, it seems that Temon has not mentioned it to his parents at all. What is the requirement, such a situation is actually not normal.

Day after day, year after year, Temon finally grew up. However, Temon did not succeed as his parents imagined. but worked as an ordinary employee in a small and medium-sized company.

Temon's parents felt that, in fact, the child can be a clerk. With Temon's understanding character, he can naturally get along well in the unit.

However, unexpectedly, Temon did not do well in the company and even became the object of bullying by many colleagues. The reason is that Temon does not know how to reject others, and often only considers the feelings of others. So he does not understand Protecting their own rights and interests, thus becoming a typical "soft persimmon". Temon's life has become so hard because of Temon's pleasant personality.

1. Flattering Personality Hurts Children More Than You Think, Don't Ignore It

A child with a pleasing personality may seem to be an excellent child who is empathetic and sensible. but in fact, this personality is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child.

2. Cause The Child To Lose The Awareness Of Protection Of Self-Rights 

Because these children often like to cater to others. And even cater to others indefinitely, and in the process. The children's own rights and interests may be harmed or even seriously harmed, but the children can accept this kind of harm. To say it nicely is to sacrifice oneself for others. to say it badly is to be incompetent and cowardly.

3. Very Lack Of Creativity 

Because children with pleasing personalities often like to cater to others. There are some established facts in their minds. They are not good at and dare not think about creative things. because they do not know whether these things will please people. 

4. The Psychological Environment Is Extremely Unhealthy 

Children with pleasing personalities seem to be normal. But in fact, their psychological environment is very unhealthy. because they are extremely lacking in positive emotions. they have little happiness in their daily life, and they have no goals and no desires. Even if there is no desire, this will make the child willing to be ordinary, and even lose hope in life.

5. Why Do Children Develop A Pleasing Personality? There Are Three Reasons Why Parents Need To Know

Children are not born with a pleasing personality but are gradually "taught" to become a pleasing personality in life. There are three main reasons why children become a pleasing personalities. Parents should know.

1. The Parents' Education Method Is Wrong, And The Control Is Too Strong

Many parents are too strict with their children's management, even to the point of outrageous. I have seen a parent before. He even planned what needs to be done every minute of the day for the child. which made the child completely lose his independent thinking and can only do things according to the parents' arrangement.

In such an educational environment. children will lose their autonomy and only know how to cater to their parents, gradually forming a pleasing personality.

2. Parents' Expectations Of Their Children Are Too High And Unrealistic

It is normal for parents to have certain expectations for their children. However, some parents have high expectations for their children. even beyond the reasonable range. For example, an earlier neighbor expected his child to be first in the grade every time he took the exam. 

Such an expectation is a bit unrealistic regardless of the children No matter how good the academic performance is. it is generally not possible to always be the first, and accidents will always happen.

If the child fails, he will be madly reprimanded by the parents, thus losing self-confidence, feeling sorry for the parents, and gradually forming a pleasing personality.

3. Parents Always Hit Their Children, Causing Children To Feel Inferior

I believe that many people have a childhood shadow of "other people's children", right? We are always inferior to others. However, most parents do not always use him to compare with their own children. 

However, some parents are different. They do not have an effective education method. so as long as they are educating their children, they will mention "children from other people's families".  thus constantly attacking the children, and eventually causing the children to have a serious inferiority complex and feel that they are very poor. thus gradually forming a pleasing personality.

A pleasing personality is very detrimental to the growth of the child. Therefore, parents should prevent their children from developing a pleasing personality. For this matter, parents can do the following:

1. Trust The Child

The potential of the child is unlimited, and the ability of the child is constantly growing. The child may not be able to do it now but in the near future. the child will be better than the parent. Therefore, the parent must trust the child.

2. Encourage Children

Children with self-confidence are scary because they grow beyond their parents' expectations. So, encourage your child more and let him grow up in a positive environment, and he will impress you.

3. Respect For Children

If you want children to become independent, self-reliant, and self-improving, then they need to give them enough respect. so that they can look at themselves more objectively, study, life, and life, and become better.

Conclusion

The child is not just "good", but needs self-improvement, self-reliance, and self-confidence. so that the child can get rid of the flattering personality and develop better and better.

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