Why Do Children Get Irritable Lack Concentration And Get Angry Easily?

The child is squeamish, has poor concentration, and has a big temper. It may be that he's "feeling" has been ignored "How can a boy be so squeamish!"

5-year-old Marcus fell and scratched a little skin on his arm, but there was no blood. As a result, the child looked at his "injury" every few seconds. In the beginning, Marcus's mother also comforted a few words, "It's okay, it's not a big problem."

After almost an hour passed, when the child was still looking at the wound on his hand, the mother finally broke out: "Just scratch the skin, what about you?"

The boy's eyes reddened with a grievance, which made Marcus's mother even more irritable. Since she brought her child back from her hometown at the age of 3, she was afraid that she would be spoiled when she was a child. he.

But the child is getting more and more squeamish and glass-hearted, not only a small injury will be uncomfortable for a long time, usually say a few words to him, the eye circles will be red, and sometimes he will be angry for a whole day!

Marcus's mother was thinking about how to give her child more "failure education" to make him stronger; at the same time, she was worried that if the child had a heavy heart and given too much setback education, would he not be able to think about it?

In fact, Marcus's mother has wronged the child. The child's problem is not "too squeamish", but caused by "tactile" sensitivity, and the child's tactile sensitivity may be the most easily overlooked feeling by parents.

What is "tactile sensitivity"?

"Touch sensitivity" is an aspect of the brain's underdevelopment of sensory integration. In infancy, babies touch the world by touch, and their sense of taste is the most sensitive, so put everything in your mouth and taste it.

However, with the development of the brain, children begin to experience the world with their senses such as sight and hearing and communicate with the world with language, and their sensitivity to touch begins to decline.

If the child's tactile sensitivity is not reduced at this time, he will be distracted by various tactile sensations all the time. Therefore, children who are too sensitive to touch are also very prone to inattention.

Not only that, because children with sensitive touch are more likely to feel pain and discomfort, they are more likely to have emotional agitation and anger, and are more likely to appear stubborn, unable to "turn" and not fit in with the group.

Therefore, Marcus is not "squeamish" himself, but his "tactile feeling" is too sensitive, so the "little wounds" we see are strong for him.

Touch-sensitive performance

Touch is probably the most overlooked sense. Many parents are very concerned about their children's vision, auditory sense system, physical coordination, etc., but often ignore the troubles that touch sensitivity brings to their children. In fact, touch has a great impact on children's attention, sense of security, emotions, and social interaction.

I once saw a little boy who spent a whole class looking at his hand and didn't listen to anything because of a small wound on his hand.

And some children like to suck their fingers and bite their nails because their lips are too sensitive to touch, so they use this method to soothe their anxious hearts.

Also, consider tactile sensitivity if your child has:

1. Likes to eat fingers or bite nails, and does not like others to cut nails
2. Do not like others to touch his face, especially hate washing his face, hair, haircut
3. Are particularly sensitive to some fabrics and surfaces, and refuse to wear clothes made of certain fabrics
4. For innocuous bruises, small bumps, small cuts, always feel very painful and complain constantly
5. Has a bad temper, often loses his temper over trivial matters, makes rhetorical arguments, and is especially irritable with relatives
6. Stubborn, insisting on doing things in their own way, without flexibility
7. Unable to accept changes in plans or changes in results, will be angry for a long time
8. Inattention, easy to get distracted in class

Why are children "touch-sensitive"?

From a psychological point of view, the currently recognized causes of touch sensitivity include premature birth, cesarean section, lack of care, and overprotection. In addition to premature birth, cesarean section, the other two are related to education.

1. Holding too little

Children rarely get touched by their relatives, rarely touch their relatives' skin, and feel their relatives' breathing, which will cause them to feel "unaccustomed" to normal contact and be "sensitive to touch";

2. Play too little

Many children like to touch the mud with their hands, roll on the lawn, and walk on their knees on the ground. However, there are always parents who are afraid that their clothes will get dirty and their children will fall, which prevents their children from exploring themselves. As a result, the skin gets too little training, resulting in "Touch-sensitive".

If you find that your child has "tactile sensitivity", you can help your child with some home training.

Children under the age of 12

Before the age of 6 is the golden period of sensory integration training, and before the age of 12 is the "training validity period", that is to say, before the age of 12, doing some sensory integration training can play a more obvious role.

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